About 24 hours ago, police were called to a house in rural Manitoba about a domestic dispute. When they arrived, they found a woman dead in the house and her husband dead in the yard. They were, apparently, victims of a murder/suicide. Unfortunately, there were 2 other victims as well. The couple's sons aged 8 and 10 were in the house at the time. Three days before Christmas, two kids received the ultimate lump of coal for a present - they were made orphans.
The children are now with their grandparents. As is usual in this part of the world, there will be a trust fund set up for the boys and there will be benefits held. But nothing will replace their parents. I also suspect that Christmas will be something they hate for the rest of their lives.
This may be the "season to be jolly" for most of us but it isn't that way for everyone. Some people suffer through incredible stress at this time of the year and, for many others, this is a time of profound depression. If you are in a relationship that is on the rocks, the holiday season is almost certain to make it worse.
If you are feeling depressed or at the end of your rope, reach out - to anyone. Don't try to tough it out on your own. And for the rest of us, stop running 90 miles an hour for a few minutes now and again and pay attention to what is going on with the people around you. It makes perfect sense to say "Are you all right?" If someone reaches out to you, grab them. Sometimes all it takes is a little encouragement and some compassion to pull someone back from the edge. If you aren't satisfied with the answers you get, don't let it drop.
These things rarely happen with no warning. I still remember, many years ago, asking a friend how he was doing. He said "I'm in the terminal stages of self alienation". It wasn't out of character for him to say something like that so I let it pass. A few days later he killed himself. I have often wondered if he would still be alive if I had taken his remark more seriously.
We don't need more orphans. Reach out. Please.